Thursday, September 13, 2012

It’s All about Relationships


Writers nowadays need a platform, that base of people who are interested in seeing what it is they write.  One of the many ways they accomplish this is through social media networks, such as Facebook, Twitter, or Google+.  Of course, there are an abundance of these sites popping up every day vying for our attention.  Facebook even has feeds within itself, like the Schoolfeed I keep getting asked to join by people I didn’t even know I went to school with.  How many of them you should sign up for is entirely up to you, but don’t overload yourself.  While they are great tools to get your creativity out to the masses, you can spend so much time on social media that you never write or paint or make that album or whatever it is you are trying to promote.


Where so many people make a mistake in using such networks as Facebook and Twitter is focusing on the promoting aspect of their business.  Now, that is important, don’t get me wrong.  That is why you are there, after all.  I know, because that’s why I am there, as well.  It’s definitely not because I have an interest in what everyone else is having for dinner and can’t wait to see the pictures they post.  I share links to my blog posts as well as my stories and by the end of the year I’ll be selling my books with the help of copy and pasted links everywhere.  I did it just now.  Go back to those blue words and click and you’ll see how I managed to slide it in.  On my blog, I’ll even devote entire posts to each book as they come out; hoping people will buy them so I can remain tucked away on my back porch allowing the voices in my head to make it down on paper.  However, if that is all you do you are hurting your chances at success.

Social media is not about business; it’s about people.  Do you want to help yourself and your business?  Then invest more of your time into building relationships and making friends than you do sharing links to your merchandise.  To do that, you need to engage in conversation, get to know the people you follow and who follow you.  I would recommend going that extra mile and visit their blogs and web pages, listen to their music and help support them.  I will find someone whose work I thoroughly enjoy and soon I am sharing their links with my friends and followers.  Quite often this is returned as they share my writing with their friends in appreciation.  As in other areas of life, promotion is a reciprocal act.

It also pays to have good manners.  When people share my story, Circle of Justice, a blog post, or just some smart ass comment I made about life and people, I make sure I don’t wait too long to say a public thank you.  The same goes with the people who recommend me to their followers or who take the time to comment on the blog or Facebook page.  Furthermore, I like to welcome and thank new followers on Twitter for checking me out and participating.  Being grateful is not only polite, but people are more willing to help someone who appreciates their efforts.  And I am appreciative.  There is no way I could reach as many people as I do without the assistance of great people.

To go further in life as well as in your business invest in relationships as much as you do in your art.  Read the books and blogs of people who want your help as much as you want theirs, participate and leave comments.  The saying goes that in order to have friends you must first be a friend.  The same is true when it comes to support.  If you want people to support you, then take the time to support them.  Be the kind of fan you would love to have for yourself.

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10 comments:

  1. Good post, Robbie. I couldn't agree more! :-)

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  2. Hi Robbie. Very readable post.

    Time is the big issue, I agree. Sometimes you just have to ignore everything and everyone so that you can get the book finished. I don't really believe that many, if any of us will make a living out of what we do, even though I have read some excellent books produced by writers who have self-published.

    What I am looking for is people who like my writing, so I rely on the generosity of people to retweet and recommend my books. I, in turn, spend a part of my day doing the same for them. Whether we are all just locked into a cycle of promoting each other pointlessly, is a moot point. I like the fact I am getting to know people better and getting to read what they have written. But what I need is for the day to be twice as long so that I can fit it all in! And that's not counting the washing up etc.

    I enjoyed your post, Robbie, and I would love to believe that people who buy our books are truly interested in seeing our generous promotions of other writers.

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    1. Thank you, Bev. I'm glad you enjoyed it. And I would also love more time in each day and an extra day in the week. I would write regardless of who read, but it makes it all the more worthwhile to see people enjoy what you've taken from a thought and created into a story. I look forward to seeing your words.

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  3. Great post Robbie.

    I agree it's vital to use social networks to build relationships but also understand that you can spend all your time on there if you are not careful. I try to find a balance between writing and networking.

    Your closing message is perfectly apt. Unfortunately, I think some writers just believe posting buy links is all they need to do. It may have worked for some but the vast majority of people who have best-selling books are the ones that immerse themselves wholeheartedly in the writing community.

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    1. Thank you, David.

      AS writers we are isolated enough as we put words to paper. It's important for our sanity as well as networking to be involved in the community as much as possible.

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  4. F sharp.
    You asked for a note and since our origins are choir. ^_^

    Always enjoy reading your stuff.

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    1. HA! I'll take it...and thanks, Jon. I'm glad that you do.

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  5. You certainly know how to use twitter Robbie. You are very gracious to authors like myself and I appreciate that. People Helping people is what its all about!
    Thank you!

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    1. Thank you :) As I always say, it's not a competition; it's a journey we are all taking together. Thanks for visiting and commenting!

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