Wednesday, November 20, 2013

The Exhausting Fan

Not this fan
I’ve never been one who was overly impressed with celebrities.  I don’t go crazy with wanting to meet them and I refuse to wait in long lines just to say hi to someone who won’t remember I was ever there.  They are people just as we are people.  They may make millions of more dollars than we do, but I blame that on our skewed perception of what is really important in society today and not on them.  They wouldn’t be able to make that much money if we didn’t enable them to and I can’t blame them for making every dime they can while they can.

However, while I do not crave their attention, I do follow a few on Twitter.  If I am into a television show, I will usually tend to follow some of the actors who are on that show not to see what they are doing, but rather for the neat little trivia they sometimes tweet about their shows.  So far, the cast of NCIS has been the most fun to watch in my Twitter stream as Michael Weatherly, Sean Murray, Brain Dietzen and Pauley Perrette are constantly tweeting about little known facts and engaging each other in a contest of tweets.
I also follow some because they are engaged in some awesome causes that I like to share and tweet.  Of course, sometimes, after awhile I lose interest and clean up my Follow List and soon they are gone. 

Last week, I was watching an exchange between Shamar Moore and Paget Brewster of Criminal Minds and the jests that were flying back and forth were assurances that they were just as playful and frisky as the rest of us.  The fun banter and flirtatious comments were cracking me up and helped me see Paget Brewster in a whole new light.  However, some of the fans of these actors seemed to be going into hyper drool.  As I scrolled some of the comments that followed those tweets, I was amazed at how desperate some of those people sounded.  They were literally begging these actors to follow them with comments like “My life would be complete if you followed me” and “I’ll just die if you don’t follow me.” 

Really?  Getting some actor to follow you on Twitter would be your crowning life achievement?  Your existence means nothing unless a character of a sitcom becomes your friend on Facebook?  That is your ambition in life?  What does that say about where we have come as a people?

I feel sorry for some of those in the entertainment industry who merely wish to go to work, do their job, and then go home.  They never get to just live like the rest of us.  I know, you probably think that’s the price of fame and they make enough money to put up with it.  They are a public figure and as such have lost the right to privacy and normal people following them.  I disagree.  They are people doing a job.  Nothing more.  Nothing less.  There are other professions out there more deserving of the crazed fans, careers like teachers, soldiers, firemen, social workers, and so many more of the underpaid but meaningful professions.  Our society has lost its sense of what is truly important and it has never been so apparent as it is on social media where the world can see the desperate, depressing behavior of those with nothing better to do with their lives than to follow those in the entertainment industry and make of them gods.

Never beg for someone’s attention, no matter how much of a celebrity they are.  People who are good at what they do deserve respect, not worship.  And you deserve a little dignity.

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  1. Your comments about actors being people doing a job is very Bing Crosby. I remember him talking about it and teaching his children the very same. It went along the lines of 'you feel special, you think you're special, you're here to make people happy, think of them as special" along those lines. I was a little kid and I remember how it surprised me to hear someone famous say we're all the same. Acting is his job. It made me feel wonderful.

    The way some behave toward actors is terrifying. By the same token some actors feel they're above it all and expect all around them to jump at their presence. I'd love to get to a Comic Con - to 'meet' some of the actors of my favorite shows. They make me happy, add to my life, give my son, daughter and I something to share - it's old fashioned thinking dating back to my grandparents when the world was smaller, no public figure was too great and everyone knew each other - they're part of my family.

    1. I like Bing Crosby so the comparison made me smile. I agree. Some actors think they are gods and should be treated as such, but I think it's also due to the fact that too many people fawn all over them. Family deserves that attention, not celebrities.

      I'd like to go to a Comic Con as Thanks for visiting!

  2. Excellent post, Robbie. Like you, I don't understand our society's celebrity obsession. As you said, they're just people doing jobs. I can't imagine what it's like for them to never be allowed to eat in a restaurant or shop in a store without photographers and rabid fans chasing them down. There's something very wrong with a world that makes billionaire icons of actors and athletes, while our firefighters barely make enough to pay the mortgage and our social workers are so horribly understaffed and underfunded that they can't do their jobs properly.

    1. It's sad to watch people begging like they do on Twitter or Facebook. The people who truly deserve the recognition go unnoticed.

      Thanks for visiting, Darcia :)

  3. Wow! Couldn't have said it better myself! I have never been star struck in my life, it amazes people that I am not all "crazy number one fan" when I run into or work with a celebrity. Why should I be? The only difference between me and them is the career choices we made, and the paycheck amount we pull in. In all other ways we are the same, just people doing a job to make a living!

    I agree that some celebrities act like they are royalty and everyone should fawn all over them, but they feel that way because today's society worships those on TV and in movies or bands the same way our ancestors worshipped whatever entity represented the god they believed in. It's absolutely ridiculous, and very very sad!

    1. I haven't been star struck either. There are those I like, but then I have doctors I like as well lol. And you are right, celebrities act that way because people enable them. IT's a sad situation.

      Thanks for visiting and commenting.

  4. Well said!! This should be a "must read" be all prior to joining Twitter!!