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| Stories belong on bookshelves |
You don’t have to be a writer to be a storyteller. As a
matter of fact, all of us are storytellers, even if we do not realize it. Don’t
believe me? See if any if any of these sound familiar.
“I have asked him to put his socks in the dirty clothes
hamper a dozen times. He is purposefully trying to piss me off.”
“Why are they looking at me like that? They think they are
better than me and can do whatever they want.”
“I’m the only one whoever takes out the trash. They just
think I’m the servant in this house.”
“I told them to be here at ten, but oh no, they don’t care
if I’m sitting here waiting for fifteen minutes. They only want to do what they
want to do.”
Stories. We tell ourselves these stories to explain the
actions of others and quite often none of it is true. Our stories quite often
paint the other person as the bad guy, allowing us to feel self-righteous in
our stories and justified.
There is a photo going around Facebook with a tongue in
cheek look at the difference between men and women writing in journals. The
male was quiet and the female wrote page after page trying to ascertain the
meaning behind his solitude and had their relationship in the toilet by the
time she finished writing and him running off with another woman. In his
journal, he was trying to figure out why his motorcycle wasn’t running.
We can allow our imaginations to run pretty wild at times,
creating more drama than what was there in the first place. We would rather
assume than to speak up and ask what is truly going on and getting the truth
about a situation. Someone’s behavior is annoying us so we make up a story
explaining it, but that story may be nowhere near what is actually going on
with the person. We run the risk of running the relationship into the ground if
we don’t ask. Their bad mood may have nothing to do with us. It may simply be
an upset stomach.
We naturally tell stories. It’s how we explain things. These
stories develop our view of the world around us and if we don’t investigate the
truth, the trash not being taken out could lead to divorce because we just
assume they are trying to irritate us, instead of realizing there is three feet
of snow on the ground.
Stories are meant for the pages of books or the big screen,
not for relationships. Don’t allow yourself to be a creator of fiction and ruin
a perfectly good real life love story. Communication is the key to harmony.
Find a resolution. Talk it out. Ask questions. Cease the imaginations of your
mind from taking you down a path that leads to a cliff overlooking the jagged
rocks of destruction below.
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Unfortunately, most folks would prefer to find something bad to think rather than good. Somehow passing blame or buck is much more soothing. This isn't going to change. I abhor it but there it is. The internal dialogue is the most dangerous when it becomes an excuse. The good news? The folks listening usually aren't buying. So...mitigated harm? One can hope.
ReplyDeleteBut you are right and I only hope the message gets out. I will help you shout it.
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